Following is a story from one of our visitors who survived infidelity. After receiving the news of the affair, and feeling as though she couldn’t function, she took time off work to get back on track. Returning to her job proved to be a very welcoming distraction, as she didn’t have as much time to focus on the affair. With a positive daily routine and a good support system in place, she overcame infidelity, moved on with her life and is thriving once again.
Check out her story:

“I received an anonymous phone call one day informing me that my husband was having an affair with someone that I knew. At that same time, he was away on vacation, after he refused to take me along and I lost it. I felt that my whole world fell on top of my head and my heart stopped beating. I started crying and screaming at the same time and I called him on the phone to confront him. He denied the affair but I later confirmed that he was indeed having the affair and that at the moment that I called him, he was with her!! I felt so sick with my heartache that I took off a couple of days from work because I simply could not function. As the days went on and the weeks that followed, I found that talking to friends, especially my mother and sisters helped tremendously and that I didn’t have to carry that burden by myself. I went back to work because it kept me busy so I didn’t have time to think about him and the affair. I lost weight because I was so depressed that I was not eating or taking care of myself. I found out that the best thing for me was to keep to my daily routine as best as I could. I took care of my kids, dressed up and went to work, wore makeup and got a haircut. This boosted my ego tremendously. I kept as busy as possible, even visiting friends and relatives that I have not seen in a long time. It’s been many months since I found out about the affair and I have recently filed for divorce since he refused to acknowledge or accept that he had the affair. It took a long time to get over my anger, hurt, resentment, grief but I found that I can laugh and enjoy myself again.”

Perhaps it is tempting to crawl into bed for weeks after discovering the affair, but some actually find comfort in sticking to their normal routine (or even adding to their calendar) in the midst of their infidelity crisis.