Many of my readers responded to a survey on internet cheating with questions. Please note:

My husband had 3 affairs that way with internet, email sex and 3 others looking for men for his virginal trust with another man…I have no questions only answers to yours…I have become an expert at internet cheating on and off the web.

“Going back” through Facebook maybe subtly motivated to redo the pain and loss of that period in life. Why would someone do that. What is the underlying reason when you kinda know that you can’t go back and change anything. Everyone is a piece of your past and help in creating who you are. When I think about internet cheating, I basically think of having a cyber relationship with the opposite sex that is more than the occasional how are you. Flirting, sending drinks, pokes, gifts etc… I think when you really look forward to talking to that person than it’s a problem. I see a friend doing it now. You get hooked. As far as friends, it’s great seeing old classmates.

Are their blockers to stop the cheater from logging on and ways to track where they go and who they talk to? How can we as the betrayed spouse help our cheaters to detox from the effects of an online affair?

My husband conducted an affair partially over the internet. He was seeing and emailing a coworker. This ended with his asking for a divorce, leaving and then returning to attempt to repair our marriage. I have always respected his privacy and individuality to find it was a mistake. About six months ago he was contacted by an old high school girlfriend on Facebook. At first I continued to be naive. I saw no harm in old friends seeking each other out now that it is so much easier. Then I became aware that this had been an intense sexual relationship. A fact he had not initially disclosed. It was then that I realized that he stills harbors the potential to stray into this seductive zone. I believe he has since given me all the facts and he has limited his Facebook account to only family. We are 50 something and I still struggle with the ease at which these infidelities can be hidden. I fear for the younger generation in earlier stages of marriages etc. We had been together 24 years when all this began.

How similar is this to having a relationship with someone through text messaging. My husband and the other woman sent thousands of text messages to each other, but did not have a relationship on the internet. Their relationship was texting.