After the Affair: Should I Stay or Should I Go?

What to Do After the Affair…

Discovering your partner’s infidelity is never easy, and deciding whether or not to stay in the marriage after the affair isn’t any easier. Plenty of couples stay together after infidelity, but then there are plenty of couples who break up. This decision lies on you and what you want, but you have to make sure that you are it for the right reasons.

Here are some of the things you need to reflect on. Read the following reasons why some people decide to stay in the marriage and see which on fits your situation best.

Do you really want to save the marriage after the affair or…?

1. Do you believe that you are helping him by staying? Are you afraid of what will happen to him or what he might do to others and himself if you leave?

2. Do you feel like there’s nothing more you can do to change his behavior? That all you can do is just to tolerate his actions and let him be? Do you feel that that is what’s best for you to do?

3. Are you afraid that he will hurt you if you leave after the affair? Is your partner violent, or does he have a tendency to be? Are you staying in your relationship because you are afraid for your safety?

4. Are your needs something you don’t, or haven’t, thought about? Have you been so focused on giving your partner and your children the home they deserve, their wants and needs, that you have forgotten to think of your own?

Regardless of the decision you make after the affair, know that you are not alone and this too shall pass.