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Glad you are here. Feel free to add your questions or comments.
ege (to All):
ege (to All):
thanks.
Karla (to All):
Karla (to All):
Is it good to talk about the affair after it has ended and when you want to continue with the marriage? for affair number 4 you suggest not allowing your husband talk about the OP, also I do not know It is good to talk about it because I do not want to be compared to the OP, also because I know his experience with her apparently was very different with what we were experiencing as a couple at that moment. My husband says why I want him to repeat the things he already told me, and sometimes, not all the time, he gets angry when I start asking questions. My husband had an affair last year, for what he tells me form May (flirting started) July there was sexual intercourse in a “Romantic expensive weekend” to September, when I became suspicious and he ended it, he confessed the affair las January. We have moved to another city to be close to my family, for what we have talked and according to what I have read in your book about the different kind of affairs I can say it is a number 4, 5, 6 with some 2, I think
710-153-133 (to All):
710-153-133 (to All):
My wife seems to want to date me while carrying on a relationship with her boyfriend. She hasn’t lived at home for more than two years now. When do you say enough is enough? Why does she keep coming back? She just can’t seem to let me go.
710-153-133 (to All):
710-153-133 (to All):
34 years of marriage btw
ege (to All):
ege (to All):
should we have our webcams visible?
To All:
To All:
No ege, I will only show my webcam, once we start
ege (to All):
ege (to All):
thanks, i’m new to this…seems like most of us are
710-153-133 (to All):
710-153-133 (to All):
You’re actually already live Doc.
Karla (to All):
Karla (to All):
we are going to be 8 years married next may, btw,
710-153-133 (to All):
710-153-133 (to All):
yes
ege (to All):
ege (to All):
yes, all ok
Jo Weil (to All):
Jo Weil (to All):
Yes I can hear and see you
Julie A (to All):
Julie A (to All):
Yes
Karla (to All):
Karla (to All):
me too, i can hear and see you
ege (to All):
ege (to All):
there are some things I have not been able to get closure on, even though my husband has moved on from his affair. How do we handle this?
ege (to All):
ege (to All):
the interference is coming from people unmuting
ege (to All):
ege (to All):
beth
Julie A (to All):
Julie A (to All):
Is vacillation a sign of hope? My husband says he is sometimes confused and wants to come back. He also says that when he looks at me he feels he doesn’t deserve me. That he sees all the disappointment he has caused when he looks at me. He seems very remorseful and upset with what he is doing, but won’t stop his relationship with the other woman.
Karla (to All):
Karla (to All):
how could I help my husband feeling better with himfelf, he has told me that his overweight (whichis not a lot!) is very difficult for him as he experienced bullying for a long time for this when he was a teenager, he has said this is a hole in him and he does not know how to address this, I think this was part of his affair about wanting to be desirable
Karla (to All):
Karla (to All):
I have told him repeatedly that he is handsome, etc, but he says that it doesn’t matter how many times I say it, that he needs to see in the mirror that he is handsome in his own eyes
Karla (to All):
Karla (to All):
also how long is a “short affair” how many months??
ege (to All):
ege (to All):
thank you!
