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Beverley MacLachlan (to All):
Beverley MacLachlan (to All):
My separated husband wants a divorce. We’ve been married 32 years, In July 2015, his switch went down. I had been very stressed for a number of years. We have had a difficult family. My eldest has emotional difficluties which has been very hard for everyone. I have not been a good wife for 10 years or so. Never satisfied, comlianing, nagging etc. In Dec. 2015, he went online and has met someon else. In Feb. 2016, he moved out. In November 2016, he ws coming back but two days later chnged his ind and decided to stay with the other woman. CHristmas we were together and it was lovely. We have 3 boys [ 29, 27 and 17]. The oldest live in the family home wiht me but the youngest fell out with the oldest boy so for the past 6weeks has been living with his father. I have made a fulsome apology to my husband. I have made massive changes, which he has seen. He says these are great for my life but too late for him. He has just produced a financial settlement proposal. He is very angry and very cruel to me now.
To All:
To All:
Thanks Beverley. Do you have a specific question?
GT (to All):
GT (to All):
yes
doug (to All):
doug (to All):
yes
Beverley MacLachlan (PRIVATE):
Beverley MacLachlan (PRIVATE):
What can I do? \his behaviuor towards me has been awful for the past 18 months. He has now given up his very well paid job too. He is 58 as am I? I think its is a breakdown or MLC.
Is it possible to win him back or too far gone? He has introduced the OW to his family but not formally top our boys. She is clearly vvery in love with him. He has had a complete personality chnage , always a very responsible , loving, caring man when I was not.
Greg (to All):
Greg (to All):
why does a spouse announce a separation but after they have secured a sex partner?
Greg (to All):
Greg (to All):
I only found out by chance.
Greg (to All):
Greg (to All):
I can’t hear…
Sheri (to Presenter):
Sheri (to Presenter):
Hi! Just arrived from work. Have you answered the question of what it looks like to give my spouse space?
Gigi (to All):
Gigi (to All):
why would a man tell a woman he was dating for 6 months that he was single and then find out he’s been married the entire time? And then is it normal for the woman to still have feelings for him after finding this out and have difficulty cutting things off with him?
Lyle V (to All):
Lyle V (to All):
Good afternoon
GT (PRIVATE):
GT (PRIVATE):
can’t hear you
Sheri (to Presenter):
Sheri (to Presenter):
I can’t hear you any more.
Lyle V (to All):
Lyle V (to All):
Ok, is better now.
Greg (to All):
Greg (to All):
he was very helpful.
Lyle V (to All):
Lyle V (to All):
Triggers are a real issue a year after the affair :(
Greg (to All):
Greg (to All):
it’s so hard to stay calm…. especially when you feel you are close to making sense to your spouse.
Sheri (to All):
Sheri (to All):
My husband is moving out. He says it’s too emotional here. But I’m charging neutral and I think it’s just his guilt.
Lyle V (to All):
Lyle V (to All):
When I try to talk of the affair, my wife gets defensive and says…”I thought we wern’t talking about that anymore.” I don’t know if it would do me good to know true details, but would confirm past suspicioins and deal with it instead on speculating what may have happened.
GT (to All):
GT (to All):
I beginning to not care—and now she start to change??
Sheri (to All):
Sheri (to All):
Is this the seminar that I attended last month or a new one?
Sheri (to All):
Sheri (to All):
Awesome, thanks!
Lyle V (to All):
Lyle V (to All):
Thank you
Greg (to All):
Greg (to All):
thank you!!
