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Glad you are here. Feel free to add your questions or comments.
Todd (to All):
Todd (to All):
so when do you know it’s time to give up and if so should you feel guilty on your part because your not the perfect spouse
John (to All):
John (to All):
yes
Dia (to All):
Dia (to All):
yes
Elena (to All):
Elena (to All):
yes
Betty (to All):
Betty (to All):
yes
John (to All):
John (to All):
my wife and I are now having couples counselling after her being emotionally closed down totally for 2 years. currently my wife will accept no responsibility for anything she has done (including an affair) today she says she has no feelings and because of this no remorse. the lack of remorse and taking responsibility is what I find hard
Todd (to All):
Todd (to All):
you can try but hasn’t worked in past
Todd (to All):
Todd (to All):
yes
Todd (to All):
Todd (to All):
yes
Todd (to All):
Todd (to All):
it asked but won’t let me answer
AJ (to All):
AJ (to All):
I am working on my marriage and my relationship with my spouse everyday. My wife has said that our relationship will be ending in divorse. Any tips to help people deal with the everyday interaction even though that is the feelings of your spouse?
Todd (to All):
Todd (to All):
ok
John (to All):
John (to All):
yes
Dia (PRIVATE):
Dia (PRIVATE):
I feel stuck by my own fear. He fooled me into thinking there was hope and then he started another affair but lied about it. I even look at online dating and I am afraid. I am scared of losing my home and scared of confronting him. So it’s fear for me. He has moved in with his second AP and is pretending that he is on his own, so that I can help him with things he wants. I am scared and I want to be brave. He seems to be having a mid life crisis.
Elena (to All):
Elena (to All):
When husband tells you he feels resentment towards you because he has felt emotionally neglected (lack of sex) and thats how his affair ensued. He feels guilt over it but has not come home after 3 months. He is fearful nothing will change. What can I do/say to encourage him to even try?
AJ (to All):
AJ (to All):
she is not
AJ (to All):
AJ (to All):
yes
AJ (to All):
AJ (to All):
yes
Zha (to All):
Zha (to All):
my husband had an Internet affair almost 3 years ago. I am having trouble getting over because he still wants to have sexual experiences with other woman – strip club for example. How do I deal with this?
Troy (to All):
Troy (to All):
My wife is telling me she wants out of our marriage. I discovered she has someone (a man) she is lunching with, but is texting him at night and on weekends. We went to one therapy appointment, and she’s deciding on if she wants to give it a chance and do a weekend intensive session. She acts normally around our kids and with me in front of the kids, but is very cold with just me. She asked for time and space, which I’m trying to grant, but I still want her to know I care. She has a friend sort of encouraging her. How can I get through to her to open her eyes and get her to counseling. The therapist said he could see it stirring in her mind as he encouraged her to do counseling. How much time should I give to ask about counseling again? I don’t want to over do it.
Betty (to All):
Betty (to All):
I have a a lot of resentment towards the other woman who is someone I know. how to I get pass the angry neglect thoughts and how I want to cuss her out and call her all kinds of ugly names. and I already had words with him the night he left after I caught him at her house the second time. there a lot of history with her him and me. I guess I never understood is how can a person feel that they have the right to interfere in a relationship?
Dia (to All):
Dia (to All):
For AJ – could he say he deserves better?
Zha (to All):
Zha (to All):
how do I injure the mic?
Zha (to All):
Zha (to All):
How do i unmute
Julie P (to All):
Julie P (to All):
Click the red mic
Zha (to All):
Zha (to All):
I can’t unmute!
Dia (to All):
Dia (to All):
Thank you for doing these sessions. I feel less alone, just from showing up.
Elena (to All):
Elena (to All):
thank you
Gabor (to All):
Gabor (to All):
thank you
Kathy (to All):
Kathy (to All):
thank you
tami (to All):
tami (to All):
Thank you
