Author Archives: Dr. Bob Huizenga

How to Make Your Spouse WANT YOU

Posted on January 19, 2015 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

By Dr. Bob Huiznega Carolynn sent me a scathing email. :) She was mad at me and yet, I just love Carolynn. You see, I helped her “Charge Neutral” and now her unfaithful husband is begging for her to take … Continue reading →

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The #1 Most Powerful Technique to Save Your Marriage and Sanity

Posted on January 17, 2015 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

You will learn in the next few minutes how to effectively use THE most powerful strategy for quickly diminishing your emotional pain, changing the ground rules for the affair, discerning the emotional investment of your spouse and even, perhaps, bringing … Continue reading →

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4 Shifts you Must Make to EFFECTIVELY Deal with Infidelity

Posted on December 4, 2014 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

If you are like most, you feel like a Basket Case when first confronted by infidelity in your marriage or relationship. And, you typically engage in the 6 Killer Mistakes that Most Make that are Guaranteed to Prolong the Affair … Continue reading →

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7 Powerful Steps you MUST Take to Recover from Infidelity

Posted on July 14, 2014 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

Here’s a basic outline of general steps I’ve seen thousands take over the past years as they face and recover from the affair. Briefly, here’s a skeleton, my beginning point, for the 7 steps to affair recovery. 1. You discover … Continue reading →

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You’re OK Exactly Where You Are

Posted on June 26, 2014 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

Part of the healing from infidelity and cheating is being able to “see through” the cheating behavior as the cheating spouse’s problem. Yes, this is easier said than done; especially early in the process of healing and moving on. How … Continue reading →

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6 Reasons Being a Basket Case is Normal After Discovery of Infidelity

Posted on June 9, 2014 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

When you discover the infidelity demon in your marriage being a basket case is normal, as attested to by the fact that hundreds have come to me with their pain, confusion, rage and numbness upon discovery of their cheating spouse. … Continue reading →

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Affair Recovery: Talking about the Affair

Posted on June 3, 2014 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

A major road block for many couples recovering from infidelity is talking about the infidelity. Frequently one (the betrayed) spouse needs to talk about the infidelity. The cheating spouse says, “No. It’s over. Let’s not drag up the past. Let’s … Continue reading →

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How to fix Your Relationship: STOP Trying so Hard

Posted on May 30, 2014 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

Put on brakes and shift to neutral. Your efforts to find love and the intimacy you deserve and desire are to be commended. Your intentions are positive. However, you probably are trying TOO hard. When you attempt to “force it” … Continue reading →

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What is a Good Apology from the Cheating Spouse?

Posted on February 13, 2014 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

How do you know if your significant other is truly sorry for what s/he did? Frequently, in my coaching sessions, I hear the betrayed spouse wanting and needing to feel that the cheating spouse is truly sorry. In some cases … Continue reading →

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Marriage advice to Keep on Track to Save Your Marriage

Posted on September 7, 2013 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

Marriage Advice Saving your Marriage It is difficult to maintain your self respect as you try to save your broken marriage. You easily doubt yourself, your role in the marriage and go through a litany of “what ifs.” You wonder … Continue reading →

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