Author Archives: Dr. Bob Huizenga

Your Marriage Must Reflect Your Terms

Posted on January 16, 2013 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

This continues my speaking to the distant or pulling away spouse or partner… You can and must move ahead in resolving the impasse in your marriage by stating your terms. Your thoughts, your ideas, your observations, your opinions, your analysis … Continue reading →

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You Truly Want Love in Your Marriage

Posted on January 14, 2013 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

This continues my speaking to the distant or pulling away spouse or partner… You really want to love and be loved. You truly want love in your marriage. Underneath your aloof exterior, or tough, you-can’t-touch-me act, or your constant but … Continue reading →

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Think Marital Resolution

Posted on January 10, 2013 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

This continues my speaking to the distant or pulling away spouse or partner… You are encouraged or in other ways told it is important for you to “work on the marriage.” The underlying message is to shape up, meet the … Continue reading →

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You are Not a Bad Person

Posted on January 3, 2013 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

This continues my speaking to the distant or pulling away spouse or partner… Often the distancing spouse is viewed as the “bad” person. You are perhaps fearful that others look at you and see you as not “trying” to make … Continue reading →

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Distance is a Way to Cope

Posted on December 27, 2012 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

This continues my speaking to the distant or pulling away spouse or partner… The intent of your pulling away or distancing is not malicious or evil. Your tendency to back away is merely a way for you to cope with … Continue reading →

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The Distant Spouse: I Must be Romantic or Sexy

Posted on December 21, 2012 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

You, as the pulling away spouse, may be requested to be more “romantic” or “sexy.” The request may be direct: “I want you to be more romantic or sexy,” or you pick up from the need system of your spouse … Continue reading →

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The Distant Spouse: I Don’t want to Talk

Posted on December 14, 2012 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

Words can control, confuse and hurt. If you are the reluctant spouse, you may have a big problem with “talking.” In our culture a huge emphasis is placed upon “talking.” Those who are most verbose and “communicative” seem to dominate, … Continue reading →

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Emotional Distance in a Marriage – Personal Needs and Frustration

Posted on December 12, 2012 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

You are lead to believe, are you not, that one of the primary purposes of marriage or a relationship of significant emotional involvement is to meet personal needs? Once married or in a significant relationship, your partner will meet your … Continue reading →

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Marriage and Loss of Freedom

Posted on December 11, 2012 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

Here’s the 2nd Key to Help the Emotionally Distancing, Pulling-Away Spouse or Significant Other (It might be helpful to share this with your spouse, if s/he is willing to receive.) Key #2: You Need Not Lose your FREEDOM once the “Knot … Continue reading →

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Help for the Emotionally Distant Spouse

Posted on December 9, 2012 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

Keys to Help the Emotionally Distancing, Pulling-Away Spouse or Significant Other… You really are NOT a Schmuck If you are the reluctant spouse that is pulling away, wants emotional distance and is unsure, I want you to feel better: no … Continue reading →

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