Author Archives: Dr. Bob Huizenga

Can I Trust Again? Or…Too Much Damage?

Posted on August 23, 2011 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

This is part 2 of my transcript on trust with Nat. Her second question relates to the amount of damage and her capacity to trust and rebuild. Nat:  Part of that is, is there is a point when there’s been … Continue reading →

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Trust Building: Once a Cheater always a Cheater?

Posted on August 22, 2011 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

I provide webinars for those who read “Break Free From the Affair,” and sometimes record the session. I want to share with you a transcript that answers a frequent question; once a cheater, always a cheater? and a closely related … Continue reading →

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Traditional Self Help is Limited – Part 3

Posted on July 1, 2011 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

Here are some responses from my readers to the list I posted previously about self help strategies (I listed 8) being limited: I think many people, me included, know that all that lovey-dovey crap isn’t going to help them through … Continue reading →

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Speaking your “Voice” to Your Spouse – Part 2

Posted on June 28, 2011 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

Here are some more key points about using your personal power and speaking your voice to your spouse: You need not be loud and when you speak your voice. A quiet, calm, yet coming from within you voice, holds the … Continue reading →

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Traditional Self Help is Limited – Part 2

Posted on June 24, 2011 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

Here are 4 more self help strategies: You must get marriage counseling. Please know that I’ve had a private practice as a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist since 1981. Not all marriage counseling is equal. There are inherent contradictions that … Continue reading →

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Getting Him/Her to “Talk” Part 2

Posted on June 21, 2011 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

Here are some other points to consider when trying to engage or getting your spouse to “talk”: A series of Engagements, each building positively on the other, create a framework for the possibility of warmth, acceptance, love and romance (if … Continue reading →

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Rebuilding Your Marriage: 8 Key Points on Creating Distinctions

Posted on June 18, 2011 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

From time to time, throughout my material, you will hear me refer to the process of making distinctions. Making distinctions is the process of discovering deeper and deeper meaning and understanding in a concept. Take “love,” for example. What is … Continue reading →

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Speaking Your “Voice” to Your Spouse

Posted on June 15, 2011 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

A core element of a healthy marriage is your capacity to express your personal power. Note, I did not say you must develop it. Your personal power is there! It may be covered at this moment. You may not believe … Continue reading →

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Traditional Self Help is Limited – Part 1

Posted on June 12, 2011 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

I’ve been part of the self help and therapeutic endeavor since 1981. I’ve served on the state board for the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy. My private practice in Marriage and Family Therapy continued since that time and … Continue reading →

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How To Get Him/Her To “Talk”

Posted on June 9, 2011 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

Engaging the other typically means, “We gotta talk.” And, “talking” usually means “getting at issues” that are bothering one or the other. It means there is a problem, as in a lack of understanding or lack of intimacy or distance … Continue reading →

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