Category Archives: Dr. Huizenga’s Blog Posts

Learn how to break free from the affair and infidelity with resources from Dr. Huizenga, the Infidelity Coach.

This knowledge Will Save Your Sanity and Maybe Marriage

Posted on April 20, 2021 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

Discovering the TRUTH about infidelity will provide comfort, set you free and help you develop your plan of action. All affairs are not alike. Affairs are different depending on • the motivation • personality factors • and personal history of … Continue reading →

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Getting Him To Talk

Posted on March 19, 2021 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

It’s often like pulling teeth… or worse. And, you want it so badly… • To know what he thinks • A connection – something! • You’ve tried everything • You feel so alone and rejected 90% of those I coach … Continue reading →

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You Really are Normal!

Posted on March 10, 2021 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

I often reflect: What is about what I do that people find so liberating and helpful? Here’s what I think it is: I help those suffering from marriage crisis (or any crisis, really) to feel normal; they are not defective … Continue reading →

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Key #1 to Infidelity Recovery: Stop Doing What You are Doing

Posted on February 25, 2021 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

Key Point: An affair is built upon tension. Tension fuels an affair, not love; nothing else. And, that tension resides most powerfully between husband, wife and the affair partner. (Learn more about the nature of this tension in the Infidelity … Continue reading →

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Infidelity: How Do You Get Rid of the Pain?

Posted on November 9, 2015 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

I don’t want to go into detail regarding the fact that you feel pain. YOU FEEL the PAIN! It is a given.  It is real. It consumes your days and destroys sleep at night. Hands down, the discovery of infidelity … Continue reading →

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7 Powerful Steps you MUST Take to Recover from Infidelity

Posted on July 14, 2014 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

Here’s a basic outline of general steps I’ve seen thousands take over the past years as they face and recover from the affair. Briefly, here’s a skeleton, my beginning point, for the 7 steps to affair recovery. 1. You discover … Continue reading →

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You’re OK Exactly Where You Are

Posted on June 26, 2014 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

Part of the healing from infidelity and cheating is being able to “see through” the cheating behavior as the cheating spouse’s problem. Yes, this is easier said than done; especially early in the process of healing and moving on. How … Continue reading →

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What is a Good Apology from the Cheating Spouse?

Posted on February 13, 2014 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

How do you know if your significant other is truly sorry for what s/he did? Frequently, in my coaching sessions, I hear the betrayed spouse wanting and needing to feel that the cheating spouse is truly sorry. In some cases … Continue reading →

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Marriage advice to Keep on Track to Save Your Marriage

Posted on September 7, 2013 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

Marriage Advice Saving your Marriage It is difficult to maintain your self respect as you try to save your broken marriage. You easily doubt yourself, your role in the marriage and go through a litany of “what ifs.” You wonder … Continue reading →

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Infidelity in Your Marriage: Stop the Devastation by Knowing the Type of Affair

Posted on July 25, 2013 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

You didn’t ever think infidelity would happen to you! But now Infidelity invades your marriage or significant relationship. The affair, the secrets, the betrayal and the loss of love and affection happened to others but not to you. But you … Continue reading →

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