Category Archives: Infidelity Coaching

Infidelity: How Do You Get Rid of the Pain?

Posted on November 9, 2015 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

I don’t want to go into detail regarding the fact that you feel pain. YOU FEEL the PAIN! It is a given.  It is real. It consumes your days and destroys sleep at night. Hands down, the discovery of infidelity … Continue reading →

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8 Questions to Ask Yourself When Struggling with the Pain of Infidelity

Posted on April 7, 2015 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

A member of my Facebook Infidelity Support Group shared a beautiful post yesterday, in which she has challenged group members to ask themselves some tough, yet important questions. This group member is someone who has come a very long way … Continue reading →

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7 Powerful Steps you MUST Take to Recover from Infidelity

Posted on July 14, 2014 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

Here’s a basic outline of general steps I’ve seen thousands take over the past years as they face and recover from the affair. Briefly, here’s a skeleton, my beginning point, for the 7 steps to affair recovery. 1. You discover … Continue reading →

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You’re OK Exactly Where You Are

Posted on June 26, 2014 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

Part of the healing from infidelity and cheating is being able to “see through” the cheating behavior as the cheating spouse’s problem. Yes, this is easier said than done; especially early in the process of healing and moving on. How … Continue reading →

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Affair Recovery: Talking about the Affair

Posted on June 3, 2014 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

A major road block for many couples recovering from infidelity is talking about the infidelity. Frequently one (the betrayed) spouse needs to talk about the infidelity. The cheating spouse says, “No. It’s over. Let’s not drag up the past. Let’s … Continue reading →

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4 Reasons an Affair or Marital Crisis Kills your Self Esteem

Posted on April 23, 2013 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

Nothing tears at your self esteem and sense of well being more than a marital crisis. The question is often posed to me by someone in the midst of a painful relationship upheaval: “What did I do wrong?” You assume … Continue reading →

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Infidelity Pain: The Key to Hurting Less

Posted on April 20, 2013 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

A marriage crisis brings all your pain and hurt, seemingly buried for years, screaming at you. You are in pain! You are in a ton of hurt. The pain can be incredible, debilitating and persistent: It just won’t let you … Continue reading →

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Normal People Suffer from Infidelity

Posted on April 8, 2013 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

You really are normal. I often reflect: What about what I do that people find so liberating and helpful? Here’s what I think it is: I help those suffering from marriage crisis to feel normal, that they are not defective, … Continue reading →

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How Do I Stop Obsessing About the Lies?

Posted on August 26, 2011 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

Someone asked about obsessive thinking in my webinar. The transcription of my answer is below: Man:  I keep having to deal with obsessive thinking about the affair. Lies make you go around and around in your head. What do I … Continue reading →

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To Stay or Go?

Posted on August 25, 2011 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

A person asked this question in my webinar: Shall I go or stay when my husband is still with the other woman and is planning to meet her again? Here’s my response: I’m not sure it’s an issue of “Should … Continue reading →

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