Category Archives: Rebuilding the Marriage or Relationship

Affair Recovery: Talking about the Affair

Posted on June 3, 2014 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

A major road block for many couples recovering from infidelity is talking about the infidelity. Frequently one (the betrayed) spouse needs to talk about the infidelity. The cheating spouse says, “No. It’s over. Let’s not drag up the past. Let’s … Continue reading →

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What is a Good Apology from the Cheating Spouse?

Posted on February 13, 2014 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

How do you know if your significant other is truly sorry for what s/he did? Frequently, in my coaching sessions, I hear the betrayed spouse wanting and needing to feel that the cheating spouse is truly sorry. In some cases … Continue reading →

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Marriage advice to Keep on Track to Save Your Marriage

Posted on September 7, 2013 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

Marriage Advice Saving your Marriage It is difficult to maintain your self respect as you try to save your broken marriage. You easily doubt yourself, your role in the marriage and go through a litany of “what ifs.” You wonder … Continue reading →

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Emotional Connection without Talking in Your Marriage

Posted on May 8, 2013 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

The emotional connection or closeness you strongly desire in your marriage can happen. WITHOUT talking. A look, a facial expression, a glance, a touch or a warm movement of the body may “connect.” I prefer to use the word engage … Continue reading →

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Frustration in Marriage and the Affair

Posted on May 7, 2013 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

A tremendous amount of frustration and resentment builds in your marriage when you believe you must squelch yourself and spend inordinate time and energy going that extra mile to meet the personal needs of your spouse. Resentment emerges as you … Continue reading →

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Freedom in Marriage

Posted on May 6, 2013 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

Marriage can be an environment in which freedom, fun, excitement, spontaneity is cultivated. Sure, not all of the time, but even in the more difficult time you can be ready for the humor and loving support that is able to … Continue reading →

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Normal People Suffer from Infidelity

Posted on April 8, 2013 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

You really are normal. I often reflect: What about what I do that people find so liberating and helpful? Here’s what I think it is: I help those suffering from marriage crisis to feel normal, that they are not defective, … Continue reading →

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Your Marriage Must Reflect Your Terms

Posted on January 16, 2013 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

This continues my speaking to the distant or pulling away spouse or partner… You can and must move ahead in resolving the impasse in your marriage by stating your terms. Your thoughts, your ideas, your observations, your opinions, your analysis … Continue reading →

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You Truly Want Love in Your Marriage

Posted on January 14, 2013 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

This continues my speaking to the distant or pulling away spouse or partner… You really want to love and be loved. You truly want love in your marriage. Underneath your aloof exterior, or tough, you-can’t-touch-me act, or your constant but … Continue reading →

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You are Not a Bad Person

Posted on January 3, 2013 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

This continues my speaking to the distant or pulling away spouse or partner… Often the distancing spouse is viewed as the “bad” person. You are perhaps fearful that others look at you and see you as not “trying” to make … Continue reading →

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