Category Archives: Relationship Communication

Frustration in Marriage and the Affair

Posted on May 7, 2013 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

A tremendous amount of frustration and resentment builds in your marriage when you believe you must squelch yourself and spend inordinate time and energy going that extra mile to meet the personal needs of your spouse. Resentment emerges as you … Continue reading →

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Freedom in Marriage

Posted on May 6, 2013 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

Marriage can be an environment in which freedom, fun, excitement, spontaneity is cultivated. Sure, not all of the time, but even in the more difficult time you can be ready for the humor and loving support that is able to … Continue reading →

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Normal People Suffer from Infidelity

Posted on April 8, 2013 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

You really are normal. I often reflect: What about what I do that people find so liberating and helpful? Here’s what I think it is: I help those suffering from marriage crisis to feel normal, that they are not defective, … Continue reading →

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Your Marriage Must Reflect Your Terms

Posted on January 16, 2013 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

This continues my speaking to the distant or pulling away spouse or partner… You can and must move ahead in resolving the impasse in your marriage by stating your terms. Your thoughts, your ideas, your observations, your opinions, your analysis … Continue reading →

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You Truly Want Love in Your Marriage

Posted on January 14, 2013 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

This continues my speaking to the distant or pulling away spouse or partner… You really want to love and be loved. You truly want love in your marriage. Underneath your aloof exterior, or tough, you-can’t-touch-me act, or your constant but … Continue reading →

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You are Not a Bad Person

Posted on January 3, 2013 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

This continues my speaking to the distant or pulling away spouse or partner… Often the distancing spouse is viewed as the “bad” person. You are perhaps fearful that others look at you and see you as not “trying” to make … Continue reading →

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The Distant Spouse: I Must be Romantic or Sexy

Posted on December 21, 2012 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

You, as the pulling away spouse, may be requested to be more “romantic” or “sexy.” The request may be direct: “I want you to be more romantic or sexy,” or you pick up from the need system of your spouse … Continue reading →

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The Distant Spouse: I Don’t want to Talk

Posted on December 14, 2012 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

Words can control, confuse and hurt. If you are the reluctant spouse, you may have a big problem with “talking.” In our culture a huge emphasis is placed upon “talking.” Those who are most verbose and “communicative” seem to dominate, … Continue reading →

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Emotional Distance in a Marriage – Personal Needs and Frustration

Posted on December 12, 2012 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

You are lead to believe, are you not, that one of the primary purposes of marriage or a relationship of significant emotional involvement is to meet personal needs? Once married or in a significant relationship, your partner will meet your … Continue reading →

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Marriage and Loss of Freedom

Posted on December 11, 2012 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

Here’s the 2nd Key to Help the Emotionally Distancing, Pulling-Away Spouse or Significant Other (It might be helpful to share this with your spouse, if s/he is willing to receive.) Key #2: You Need Not Lose your FREEDOM once the “Knot … Continue reading →

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