Category Archives: Surviving Infidelity

Traditional Self Help is Limited – Part 2

Posted on June 24, 2011 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

Here are 4 more self help strategies: You must get marriage counseling. Please know that I’ve had a private practice as a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist since 1981. Not all marriage counseling is equal. There are inherent contradictions that … Continue reading →

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Getting Him/Her to “Talk” Part 2

Posted on June 21, 2011 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

Here are some other points to consider when trying to engage or getting your spouse to “talk”: A series of Engagements, each building positively on the other, create a framework for the possibility of warmth, acceptance, love and romance (if … Continue reading →

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Speaking Your “Voice” to Your Spouse

Posted on June 15, 2011 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

A core element of a healthy marriage is your capacity to express your personal power. Note, I did not say you must develop it. Your personal power is there! It may be covered at this moment. You may not believe … Continue reading →

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Traditional Self Help is Limited – Part 1

Posted on June 12, 2011 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

I’ve been part of the self help and therapeutic endeavor since 1981. I’ve served on the state board for the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy. My private practice in Marriage and Family Therapy continued since that time and … Continue reading →

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A Key Healing Skill To Use In A Marital Crisis

Posted on June 3, 2011 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

In therapy and change theory an overarching process to help in the healing is technically called meta cognition. Meta-cognition is your capacity to enable a part of you to stand back and evaluate what you (or other parts of you) … Continue reading →

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Building a Love You Can Trust: 3 Key Points about Distinctions

Posted on May 25, 2011 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

I emphasize the power of making distinctions as you build a love you can trust. Making distinctions is the process of understanding, of peeling back the layers of the onion to see what’s beneath. Love is not an end process. … Continue reading →

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How Do I Get Him to Talk?

Posted on April 11, 2011 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

Learn more about infidelity and types of affair, particularly the “I Can’t Say No Type of affair,” which is typically associated with someone with addictive tendencies. Continue reading →

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Marriage Problems and Infidelity: Are You A Chaser?

Posted on March 29, 2011 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

When it comes to relationship or marriage problems, are you the chaser or distancer? Find out what it means to be a chaser and how this can backfire on you when attempting to get your partner back. Continue reading →

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Types of Affairs: Affair #1 – My Marriage Made Me Do It

Posted on March 25, 2011 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

Learn about affair type #1, or the “My Marriage Made Me Do It” type of affair. Discover which questions to ask if you are trying to pinpoint exactly which type of affair you are faced with. Continue reading →

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Infidelity Discovery: From Devastation to Optimism

Posted on February 8, 2011 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

Follow a real life infidelity survivor on their journey from the devastation of infidelity discovery to hope, empowerment and optimism. Continue reading →

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