Are you in a Toxic Relationship?

Infidelity sometimes only scratches the surface of a torn relationship. There may be highly toxic and painful components of that relationship. In addition the “wounded spouse” may find him/herself attached and unable to break free from the toxic behavior of the cheating spouse.

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Here’s a sad and unpleasant fact: a percentage of relationships are toxic – just plain poison.

One spouse may have a characterological problem that puts the other spouse at risk.

Here are some examples (taken mainly from my two plus decades of clinical experience.)

1. Your spouse may involved in the “I Don’t Want to Say No” or “I Can’t Say No” types of infidelity. These types of infidelity are usually progressive, which means the sexual acting out behavior becomes more frequent, more intense and begins to assume a variety of expressions (internet porn, strip clubs, prostitutes, or serial infidelity, etc.) His/her sexual contacts puts you at risk with sexually transmitted diseases. (No, s/he won’t tell you. This part of his/her life is cut off from you.)

2. Your spouse may involved in a “I Fell out of Love… and just love being in love” type of affairs. These affairs are often entered into naively and sometimes the other person is a “player” with a history of sexual conquests. Sexual protection may not be used since your spouse believes “it’s love.”

3. Your spouse may be involved in a “I Need to Prove My Desirability” affair. This type of affair sometimes has self-destructive motives and your spouse my be very careless in terms of sexual protection. Or in the sex act itself s/he may dissociate and “forget” about protection.

4. You have suspected for a long time that your spouse is unfaithful. But, you don’t want to believe it. You don’t want to face it. You may have confronted him/her but it’s met with denial. Now, you are tired of living with your suspicions. The tension is taking it’s toll on you, the relationship and your family. It’s time to discover the truth.

5. Your spouse is extremely narcissistic. S/he lives on the edge and there is danger of his/her world (and therefore yours) collapsing.

6. Your spouse lives a life of secrets and compulsions (gambling perhaps, alcoholism perhaps, sexual addictions perhaps.) You and your family are at risk of losing everything.

Are you an at-risk spouse?

Do you suspect that your spouse is becoming more and more entangled in a secret life?

Are you afraid this secret life may bring him and you and your family, at some point, untold pain?

Are you ready to face the truth of your relationship, or to discover whether your suspicions are valid? Do you see the truth as a road to healing and restoration? Yes, the truth can set you free.

But, the truth is often terribly frightening. It’s difficult to face. And, we many times, do not know exactly what is true. Our spouse may proclaim a “truth,” but is it the truth?

I’ve encountered untold number of people over the past 25 plus years who truly, deep within, want to know the truth, but are not sure how to get it or have questions of what to do when it is finally exposed.

Often, truth discovery requires some detective work. It may mean spying.

Now, for some this is a dirty word. One may think that s/he would never “stoop” to such an act.

However, there may be few alternatives. And, if approached correctly, spying can set one free and begin the healing process.

That’s why I wrote a 13 page Free Report, “Should I Spy?”

“Should I Spy?” takes a hard look at the process of spying and why it may be necessary to protect you, your family and why spying may become a catalyst for your spouse to heal and change.

“Should I Spy?” addresses such issues as:

• 3 Legitimate Reasons to Spy on Your Cheating Husband or Wife
• 4 More Legitimate Reasons to Spy on Your Cheating Husband or Wife
• 6 Keys to know You are Ready to Handle What you Might Find when you Spy on Your Cheating Husband or Wife
• Is Spying on Your Cheating Spouse an Invasion of Privacy?
• Spying on Your Cheating Spouse is NOT Revenge

Get your Free Report Now.

Begin to form a strategy and plan to break free from the tyranny of secrets and deception.

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