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Getting Him To Talk

Posted on March 19, 2021 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

It’s often like pulling teeth… or worse. And, you want it so badly… • To know what he thinks • A connection – something! • You’ve tried everything • You feel so alone and rejected 90% of those I coach … Continue reading →

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Emotional Affairs: The Worst Kind of Heartbreak

Posted on August 2, 2012 by Jan Stevens

Sexual affairs or emotional affairs? What would you rather have to deal with? When you find out that your partner has been having an extramarital affair, the first thing you want to know, especially if you are a woman, is … Continue reading →

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Rebuilding the Relationship: Making Sure It Works

Posted on May 15, 2012 by Jan Stevens

What does it take to make sure that rebuilding the relationship or marriage will work after infidelity gets in the middle of it? A lot of couples have succeeded in rebuilding the relationship, but not after a few bumps in … Continue reading →

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Infidelity Counseling: Why Men Avoid Marital Therapy

Posted on May 10, 2012 by Jan Stevens

Why are men so against infidelity counseling, especially when they’re the ones who have done the cheating? Most of the time, when a couple goes in for infidelity counseling or marital therapy to try to rebuild their marriage after an … Continue reading →

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How to Help with Infidelity

Posted on February 24, 2012 by Jan Stevens

Are you trying to provide help with infidelity to a friend or family member? One of the most common questions that friends of people who are in the middle of infidelity crises ask is “what can I do to for … Continue reading →

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Recovering From Infidelity: When Can I Feel Normal Again?

Posted on January 27, 2012 by Jan Stevens

Although normalcy truly is a relative and subjective concept, there have been plenty of clients who have asked this question after they discover that their partners have been in extramarital affairs. And truth be told, there is no exact time-frame … Continue reading →

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Traditional Self Help is Limited – Part 3

Posted on July 1, 2011 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

Here are some responses from my readers to the list I posted previously about self help strategies (I listed 8) being limited: I think many people, me included, know that all that lovey-dovey crap isn’t going to help them through … Continue reading →

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Speaking your “Voice” to Your Spouse – Part 2

Posted on June 28, 2011 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

Here are some more key points about using your personal power and speaking your voice to your spouse: You need not be loud and when you speak your voice. A quiet, calm, yet coming from within you voice, holds the … Continue reading →

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Traditional Self Help is Limited – Part 2

Posted on June 24, 2011 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

Here are 4 more self help strategies: You must get marriage counseling. Please know that I’ve had a private practice as a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist since 1981. Not all marriage counseling is equal. There are inherent contradictions that … Continue reading →

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Getting Him/Her to “Talk” Part 2

Posted on June 21, 2011 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

Here are some other points to consider when trying to engage or getting your spouse to “talk”: A series of Engagements, each building positively on the other, create a framework for the possibility of warmth, acceptance, love and romance (if … Continue reading →

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