Tag Archives: Surviving Infidelity

Real-Life Infidelity Stories: Holding on to the Silver Lining

Posted on April 6, 2012 by Jan Stevens

This is an excerpt from one of the coaching sessions Dr. Robert Huizenga had with a client who discovered that her husband had an affair while he was on active duty during the war. After finding out about my husband’s … Continue reading →

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Infidelity Feelings: Holding On To Your Feelings During Infidelity

Posted on March 23, 2012 by Jan Stevens

How Do You Learn to “Hold Your Infidelity Feelings” when confronted with the devastation of an extramarital affair? Most people have a hard time upon discovering that their partners are engaged in an extramarital affair. All these thoughts and feelings … Continue reading →

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The Seventh Type of Affair: Why It Is Confusing

Posted on March 16, 2012 by Jan Stevens

How to Deal with the Confusion of the Seventh Type of Affair The 7th kind of affair, I Want to be Close to Someone (which means I can’t stand intimacy), is usually accompanied with plenty of confusion, not just on … Continue reading →

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After the Affair: Should I Stay or Should I Go?

Posted on March 9, 2012 by Jan Stevens

What to Do After the Affair… Discovering your partner’s infidelity is never easy, and deciding whether or not to stay in the marriage after the affair isn’t any easier. Plenty of couples stay together after infidelity, but then there are … Continue reading →

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Confronting Your Cheating Partner: Why You Should Know What He Did

Posted on February 3, 2012 by Jan Stevens

When you find out that your partner is cheating on you, one of the first reactions you might have is that you want to know every detail about his other relationship. You want to know who the other person is, … Continue reading →

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How Do I Stop Obsessing About the Lies?

Posted on August 26, 2011 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

Someone asked about obsessive thinking in my webinar. The transcription of my answer is below: Man:  I keep having to deal with obsessive thinking about the affair. Lies make you go around and around in your head. What do I … Continue reading →

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To Stay or Go?

Posted on August 25, 2011 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

A person asked this question in my webinar: Shall I go or stay when my husband is still with the other woman and is planning to meet her again? Here’s my response: I’m not sure it’s an issue of “Should … Continue reading →

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Traditional Self Help is Limited – Part 3

Posted on July 1, 2011 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

Here are some responses from my readers to the list I posted previously about self help strategies (I listed 8) being limited: I think many people, me included, know that all that lovey-dovey crap isn’t going to help them through … Continue reading →

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Speaking your “Voice” to Your Spouse – Part 2

Posted on June 28, 2011 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

Here are some more key points about using your personal power and speaking your voice to your spouse: You need not be loud and when you speak your voice. A quiet, calm, yet coming from within you voice, holds the … Continue reading →

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Traditional Self Help is Limited – Part 2

Posted on June 24, 2011 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

Here are 4 more self help strategies: You must get marriage counseling. Please know that I’ve had a private practice as a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist since 1981. Not all marriage counseling is equal. There are inherent contradictions that … Continue reading →

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