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Getting Him/Her to “Talk” Part 2

Posted on June 21, 2011 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

Here are some other points to consider when trying to engage or getting your spouse to “talk”: A series of Engagements, each building positively on the other, create a framework for the possibility of warmth, acceptance, love and romance (if … Continue reading →

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Rebuilding Your Marriage: 8 Key Points on Creating Distinctions

Posted on June 18, 2011 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

From time to time, throughout my material, you will hear me refer to the process of making distinctions. Making distinctions is the process of discovering deeper and deeper meaning and understanding in a concept. Take “love,” for example. What is … Continue reading →

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Speaking Your “Voice” to Your Spouse

Posted on June 15, 2011 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

A core element of a healthy marriage is your capacity to express your personal power. Note, I did not say you must develop it. Your personal power is there! It may be covered at this moment. You may not believe … Continue reading →

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Traditional Self Help is Limited – Part 1

Posted on June 12, 2011 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

I’ve been part of the self help and therapeutic endeavor since 1981. I’ve served on the state board for the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy. My private practice in Marriage and Family Therapy continued since that time and … Continue reading →

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Making Shifts Help Build A Love You Can Trust

Posted on June 6, 2011 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

Shifts happen. An awareness of your personal shifts and the capacity to guide and create shifts are a core element of building a love you can trust. Here are Key Points on shifts: A shift is any movement or change … Continue reading →

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A Key Healing Skill To Use In A Marital Crisis

Posted on June 3, 2011 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

In therapy and change theory an overarching process to help in the healing is technically called meta cognition. Meta-cognition is your capacity to enable a part of you to stand back and evaluate what you (or other parts of you) … Continue reading →

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11 Things You Are Able To Do In A Healthy Marriage

Posted on May 31, 2011 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

Following are eleven characteristics of a healthy relationship as it moves through marital crisis. In a healthy marriage, you will be able to: 1. Stand back and see the larger picture 2. View your crisis from different perspectives 3. Have … Continue reading →

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I Want You To Develop A Lasting Emotional Connection

Posted on May 28, 2011 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

I want to help you experience that lasting emotional connection and intimacy in your marriage or relationship of emotional investment that brings powerful moments of personal and mutual satisfaction and joy without losing your personal freedom and personal power. I … Continue reading →

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Building a Love You Can Trust: 3 Key Points about Distinctions

Posted on May 25, 2011 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

I emphasize the power of making distinctions as you build a love you can trust. Making distinctions is the process of understanding, of peeling back the layers of the onion to see what’s beneath. Love is not an end process. … Continue reading →

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Marriage Problems and Infidelity: Are You A Chaser?

Posted on March 29, 2011 by Dr. Bob Huizenga

When it comes to relationship or marriage problems, are you the chaser or distancer? Find out what it means to be a chaser and how this can backfire on you when attempting to get your partner back. Continue reading →

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