Surviving Infidelity Series: It Gets Better… It Really Does
The following testimonial is from a man who picked up the pieces after his wife of 25 years was unfaithful:
Where to start…firstly, I’m a man…which seems to be unusal having read many of the emails I have received. We had been together 25 years, married for 20 of them, and had 4 beautiful children. I trusted my wife implicitly. She had carte blanche to come and go as she pleased. I knew something was wrong, and when I felt I had sufficient evidence, I confronted her. To her credit, she did not lie and told me everything about the extra marital affair…I have never in my memory cried so hard. It was a massive shock, and the hardest thing I have had to deal with in my life. I won’t go into the why’s and wherefore’s…there are always three sides to every story…her side, my side and somewhere in the middle lies the truth. We are still together 8 months on. In many ways life is much better since the affair. I have lost weight (the trauma diet works a treat!), bought a new wardrobe and generally smartened myself up. Overall, I like myself a lot more now. However, not a day goes by when I don’t think about what she did with him. I wish I could make it stop, but I can’t. I’m just hoping that time will heal the wound. This is not a sales pitch, but I wish I had bought Surviving The Affair earlier. I didn’t because I thought it was a lot of money frankly, and I only bought it once it was on special offer, but it would have been so beneficial to have had it at the very start. I now know why my wife did what she did. Ok, it may not take the pain away, but it sure helps me understand and realise that I’m not alone in all of this. I would like to join a forum or something but am worried that it may be visible to people that know me. Please let me know if they are secure… Anyway…if you have just found out that the person that you’ve been living with for the last 20 years has broken your heart…let me tell you that it does get better…it really does…just hang in there and focus on you. You will never be happy in a relationship, unless you are happy with you. Many people look to others for their happiness…I know, I did it…but now, I please myself and if she wants to come along for the ride then fine…but if she doesn’t…then no problem…I know I’ll find someone who does…
More Surviving Infidelity Stories and Comments
Starting Over After a Lifetime
Talking your Way Through the Shock of Infidelity
How Far I’ve Come Since Discovering the Infidelity
Infidelity as a Building Block to a Better Marriage
